I want to keep this forever! It's my issue.. I lack confidence!
Gaining Confidence
I have just completed a course in gaining confidence. It was a really good course. Thought I would write down my notes in here for future reference, and also so people reading this my gain something from it.
* One comes into this world to succeed, not to fail. We become successful by virtue of rising above our failures.
* You, on your own terms, make things possible.
* You alone are responsible for your success. It does not depend on anyone else.
* Take the failures as they come, as you would the successes, and utilise your fears and doubts to simply strengthen yourself for future endeavours.
* A mistake should be seen as a stimulus to rise above.
* Live in the present - the here and now, and try to reach a goal within your capacities at the present.
* You cannot think positively with negative feelings any more than you can think negatively with positive feelings.
* No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. You are responsible for your own feelings, and consequently any feelings of inferiority that does arise only do so because you allow them to.
* Think of your past successes, not your failures. Think positively regarding your goals and refuse to allow anyone to steer you off course.
* Without taking responsibility for your own life it is impossible to build confidence.
This leads to : -
- A feeling of indifference about life.
- A feeling of resigned acceptance
- A feeling of emptiness and boredom
- A feeling that life is meaningless.
* Refuse to allow anyone to manipulate, control or dominate you.
- No one can control you without your consent.
- No one can make you feel indifferent without your consent
- No one can make you feel inferior without your consent
- No one has final authority over you other than yourself. The highest proportion of honour and respect is due to yourself. You need to be a friend to yourself above all things.
* You are the master of your destiny.
* The greatest thing a person has to fear is fear itself.
* When fear strikes, reclaim your identity, overcome your sense of inadequacy. Rise above your feelings of self doubt.
* Some people have a sense that thay do not have any goals. One goal that is common to all of us - the desire to live. Not to simply exist - the desire to live richly and be happy. Remember this goal.
* If you want to achieve a goal in the present, recall the confidence of some past success, no matter how small, and use this confidence in the present.
* Peace starts within yourself. We have to deal with
- The hurt feelings
- The fears
- The frustrations
- The panics
- The loneliness inside
- The feelings of inferiority
* Bring peace to this internal troubled world. The resentments, the uncertainties, the emptiness - there negative feelings take away your peace of mind and divert you from your goal of building and developing confidence. You must deal with these feelings of the troubled world within you.
* You and you alone can change the way you are - for better or for worse. No one can do this for you.
* To overcome fears and gain confidence -
- Do one thing at a time, set one goal at a time.
- Forget the mistakes of yesterday.
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